Middle
what do you do when you are in the middle position? or as in Bahasa Malaysia, "atas pagar"?... i really dislike such a situation when I am put into, out of coincidental and certainly not my choice...
guess there is always pros and cons to such situation i.e. either it could be beneficial or detrimental to you. lets look at the pros. being in the middle position, allows you to understand the whole situation so much better. you get to know the stories of both parties, each in their own way and interpretation of a certain incident/accident/event/conflict or whatever it may be. but then, there's the bad part. when you are in the middle position, that's where you are faced with the dillemma of which side to agree upon. Yes, you may be the best judge to the whole thing because you know both sides of the story so would know who is in the right and wrong sides. but to makes matters worse, what if both sides trusted you initially and in fact was the reason they willing to tell you their side of the story, with the hopes that you will be their guide or mentor or just to understand and listen to them.
so how? from people being the in trouble, coming running after you with hopes that you can be their confidente...but then, needless to them, their "opponent" did the same to i.e. came running to you too....
familiar situation? yes indeed. you all no need to deny because this is just the very norm of life. but look at the bright side (yes, if you know me long enough or read my blog long enough, you will know how frequent i like to look at positive side of things)....those two parties came running to tell you their stories is because they trusted you. they had faith in you, they believe in you and they know they can find support and comfort in you......so it simply meant that you have did something good to them that impacted their lives for them to react in such a way towards you......
thus, as simple as it may get. it is just very important to listen. always lend your ear to them, no matter what you think of them, be it right or wrong. if they are wrong, don't just shut them off by telling them they are wrong (If they are), but rather tell them with logic/reasons to their actions/words....reasoning will always help calm a storm.....but never be a stone fire (batu api) to fuel the fire even more....try to be the water to stop the fire.... decide and choose well. for every thing and reason it may be, remember that Karma does exist and happens! god bless
guess there is always pros and cons to such situation i.e. either it could be beneficial or detrimental to you. lets look at the pros. being in the middle position, allows you to understand the whole situation so much better. you get to know the stories of both parties, each in their own way and interpretation of a certain incident/accident/event/conflict or whatever it may be. but then, there's the bad part. when you are in the middle position, that's where you are faced with the dillemma of which side to agree upon. Yes, you may be the best judge to the whole thing because you know both sides of the story so would know who is in the right and wrong sides. but to makes matters worse, what if both sides trusted you initially and in fact was the reason they willing to tell you their side of the story, with the hopes that you will be their guide or mentor or just to understand and listen to them.
so how? from people being the in trouble, coming running after you with hopes that you can be their confidente...but then, needless to them, their "opponent" did the same to i.e. came running to you too....
familiar situation? yes indeed. you all no need to deny because this is just the very norm of life. but look at the bright side (yes, if you know me long enough or read my blog long enough, you will know how frequent i like to look at positive side of things)....those two parties came running to tell you their stories is because they trusted you. they had faith in you, they believe in you and they know they can find support and comfort in you......so it simply meant that you have did something good to them that impacted their lives for them to react in such a way towards you......
thus, as simple as it may get. it is just very important to listen. always lend your ear to them, no matter what you think of them, be it right or wrong. if they are wrong, don't just shut them off by telling them they are wrong (If they are), but rather tell them with logic/reasons to their actions/words....reasoning will always help calm a storm.....but never be a stone fire (batu api) to fuel the fire even more....try to be the water to stop the fire.... decide and choose well. for every thing and reason it may be, remember that Karma does exist and happens! god bless
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