Benefit of the Doubt
Hypocrisy! yes, A strong word, a powerful word...weigh so much.... you may expect me to be angry, to be furious, but instead i feel disappointed instead... im speaking as a third party as well as a victim..
Friends. How do you value a friendship? Is it just a touch and go? just someone to use when you needed something, and then after, forgot all that we have gone through as friends? it is really sad to see a friendship come to a stage where everything that is to be done or has been done is calculated to its core..for example, not close enough friend so no need to waste money or precisely, no need to waste leave just for a friend's wedding! for a joyous occasion, a once in a lifetime joyous celebration, yet they cannot sacrifice just for this....but i should them credit for being honest enough with me to inform me the real reason for not going, and not lying beautifully to cover up the truth... but that's not the point... or maybe that is the point, i supposed. they just do not value the friendship that was built years ago... to them, it was just the past, and whatever happened then was just history, nothing more...do not want to dwell in the past and move on with the present....to me it is selfish, but then , who am i to judge them, right? i force myself to believe that they have their own personal reasons for behaving such, and for them to decide such is for the good of both parties.... the benefit of the doubt..
sad isnt it? what's more when somewhat similar situation happened twice? when you introduce friends to friends, because we all have something in common, but at the end of the day, you are the one being left behind, and they go on forgetting who are you.....how sad it is? but well, then again, i force myself to believe there is always a reason for them doing what they are doing...the benefit of the doubt...
God bless them all. Amen.
Friends. How do you value a friendship? Is it just a touch and go? just someone to use when you needed something, and then after, forgot all that we have gone through as friends? it is really sad to see a friendship come to a stage where everything that is to be done or has been done is calculated to its core..for example, not close enough friend so no need to waste money or precisely, no need to waste leave just for a friend's wedding! for a joyous occasion, a once in a lifetime joyous celebration, yet they cannot sacrifice just for this....but i should them credit for being honest enough with me to inform me the real reason for not going, and not lying beautifully to cover up the truth... but that's not the point... or maybe that is the point, i supposed. they just do not value the friendship that was built years ago... to them, it was just the past, and whatever happened then was just history, nothing more...do not want to dwell in the past and move on with the present....to me it is selfish, but then , who am i to judge them, right? i force myself to believe that they have their own personal reasons for behaving such, and for them to decide such is for the good of both parties.... the benefit of the doubt..
sad isnt it? what's more when somewhat similar situation happened twice? when you introduce friends to friends, because we all have something in common, but at the end of the day, you are the one being left behind, and they go on forgetting who are you.....how sad it is? but well, then again, i force myself to believe there is always a reason for them doing what they are doing...the benefit of the doubt...
God bless them all. Amen.
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