Questions, questions and more questions
Why do we need to follow others? Is it so difficult if we were to live alone and in our own way? Must we always have a clique or a ‘gang’ of our own to feel belong in today’s world? And if there is a clique or a ‘gang’, must we actually change our ways and our own identity just so to fit into the group and not be treated as an outcast? Can’t we just stick to our own style and identity, and still feel ‘fit’ in that ‘gang’?
So many questions…so many, so so many…..but do we have the answer…something prompted me to question myself this….(sorry ah, a bit too personal for me to describe what here)….do you feel like this as well? And don’t you feel the ‘pinch’ to really change and try to fit into a group? Is it a self-willingness to do so or force to do so just to fit into that gang? ….so many questions.. but where can I find the answer? Well I think it is all within…….
I remember a friend once told me this : “don’t bother explaining yourself to others for those who know u and like u wont bother asking but those who are not, will expect u to explain yourself for everything u do and no matter how much u explain they wont believe u even if it is true!”….this is just so deep in meaning and really is true….a person who knows you well, will not force you to change who you are, because they have already accept who you really are!
In my opinion, the biggest problem in everyone would be: ACCEPTANCE…. All the questions I put forth earlier are all linked to this 10-letter word…everyone has a small part in them that has this fear of not being accepted (some may deny, but its true…search within)…fear of not being accepted by the people around us; families, friends, society….and no matter what we do, there is always a small part of us that question : what would people think of me? How will people see me after this? Will they still treat me as their friend?....I know, some will deny these, saying that only a paranoid person will think like this, but please lah….you know your own self, there will just be times when we think of this….because I do admit, I do have these questions in my head at times…
Is NOT being accepted by someone or by a group has a big impact in our lives? How important is ‘acceptance’ in our daily lives? Must I suffer just so that I will be accepted? Will I not survive if I am all alone?
My oh my…..questions, questions and more questions…..gosh….its just never ending
So many questions…so many, so so many…..but do we have the answer…something prompted me to question myself this….(sorry ah, a bit too personal for me to describe what here)….do you feel like this as well? And don’t you feel the ‘pinch’ to really change and try to fit into a group? Is it a self-willingness to do so or force to do so just to fit into that gang? ….so many questions.. but where can I find the answer? Well I think it is all within…….
I remember a friend once told me this : “don’t bother explaining yourself to others for those who know u and like u wont bother asking but those who are not, will expect u to explain yourself for everything u do and no matter how much u explain they wont believe u even if it is true!”….this is just so deep in meaning and really is true….a person who knows you well, will not force you to change who you are, because they have already accept who you really are!
In my opinion, the biggest problem in everyone would be: ACCEPTANCE…. All the questions I put forth earlier are all linked to this 10-letter word…everyone has a small part in them that has this fear of not being accepted (some may deny, but its true…search within)…fear of not being accepted by the people around us; families, friends, society….and no matter what we do, there is always a small part of us that question : what would people think of me? How will people see me after this? Will they still treat me as their friend?....I know, some will deny these, saying that only a paranoid person will think like this, but please lah….you know your own self, there will just be times when we think of this….because I do admit, I do have these questions in my head at times…
Is NOT being accepted by someone or by a group has a big impact in our lives? How important is ‘acceptance’ in our daily lives? Must I suffer just so that I will be accepted? Will I not survive if I am all alone?
My oh my…..questions, questions and more questions…..gosh….its just never ending
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