Understanding

~with reference to the previous post (haha...it sounds just like a formal letter opening)...i did mention on my nature of not showing my true (negative) emotions....which actually led to something i just realized recently..which is understanding. No one understands me or rather know me really well...no matter it is my family nor my closest friends...except for Him above, who knows me thoroughly more than I even know myself....

Understanding is an essential ingredient in a relationship of two persons or more. i'm not referring to just a normal boy-girl relationship, but relationships of all forms; parents-children, sibling-sibling, friend-friend, teacher-student, housemates-housemates, etc. it all requires a little bit of understanding on either parties. i really emphasis understanding here and is something i believe, is very important in everyone's life. hehe...i guess for those who followed up my blog, you can noticed that i do blog afew times on this.

the most famous or most listened phrase is always : " my father doesn't understand me!" or "my mum doesn't understand me!"..parents are always the first to be in this 'conflict of understanding'...why so? because the closer a group of people are, the higher the expectations they are from each other, in other words, they expect understanding from each other....however, the basic requirements in an understanding relationship is just a simple word : EMPATHY. being empathetic of other people helps to build up the level of understanding between two individuals or more.

i recently watched this movie :

The Ant Bully. A very cute and interesting movie and the main message in this movie is just simple : UNDERSTANDING. it tells of how the boy is being shrunk into the size of an ant and forced to live with them, which he often destroy when he was a life-sized boy. being small and force to live with those he destroy, gives him a real picture of the damage he has caused them all this while. it leads to his understanding of their lives and learn to adapt to them.

This simple movie clearly reflects on the phrase "being in their shoes", which is not just a mere saying but it is really deep in meaning. i did mention this phrase once to a friend of mine when we were discussing the issue of understanding, and the immediate response was 'oh, then i should give more to the needy and the poor.' well, it is not totally wrong, but the point that i was getting to is not just the poor and the needy, but just look at the person around you. do we understand them? our families, our friends, our classmates? we don't have to go very far and think of just the poor and the needy(im not asking you to neglect them here ah...don't misunderstood), but just take a look at the person closest to you right now. do you understand him/her? we humans have a tendency to always think that people do not understand you, but do we make the effort to understand them as well?

we often are unaware of our own mistakes, and we will somehow get angry when people points it to us or nag us for it..but do we actualy realize that we are the ones at fault here? this is a sad thing which i came across, and it often happens especially when an elder scolds us for our wrong doings, and then we will conclude that he/she does not understand us. but the whole point is, do we understand them? do we realize the mistakes we have commit? Just like the boy in that movie, do we actually learn and be aware of our actions towards the people around us? do we know how much a damage that we can cause to a friend or family member, because of our very own actions?

and all it requires is just a little mix of understanding and empathy, a pleasant blend.

so what if no one understands me? i have no worries, because i'll always have Him who is the one who understands me inside out, and that is all that matters. Praises unto Him most high =)